Monday, October 29, 2012

Guest Post: Sisterly Love

Sister. She is your mirror, shining back at you with a world of possibilities. She is your witness, who sees you at your worst and best, and loves you anyway. She is your partner in crime, your midnight companion, someone who knows when you are smiling, even in the dark. She is your teacher, your defense attorney, your personal press agent, even your shrink. Some days, she's the reason you wish you were an only child.
– Barbara Alpert

To my little sister, my supporter, my best friend... I know no matter what comes my way, you will always have my back. Thank you for standing by me and keeping the laughter alive. I love you... Red Dog over and out!

I will never forget the night my sister called and said she had cancer. It stunned me. I just looked at my husband and said, "My sister has cancer." He sat there, stunned as well. I walked into my bedroom pretending to make a phone call so that I could break down, praying and crying for God to please hear my prayers.

For those of you who don't know me and my husband you need to understand neither one of us shows our emotions. That doesn't mean we don't have them...we just rarely let each other or anyone else see them.

As the days and weeks went by I would try my best to hold it in until I had alone moments. I had a lot of sleepless nights. While everyone slept, I stayed up crying and praying. I often broke down in  the shower, falling to my knees, crying and praying for God to spare my sister. To hear my prayers. To be with her children...hold them up...keep them strong and comfort them. I was begging God, the whole time knowing what I was feeling couldn't even begin to touch the surface of how she must have felt. It broke my heart for beautiful.

Her courage amazes me. The strength and grace this girl has is truly remarkable and God sent. Like her courage when she threw a party the night I shaved her head. The way she went to work every day on chemo, looking beautiful, holding her head up like nothing was wrong. The way she was always still just being my sister. So giving. So kind. Always ready to talk and laugh. Watching her step by step, her faith , her courage and her beauty has not only amazed me but I admire her person with the utmost respect!

She is truly MY BIG SISTER HERO!!

I love her and thank God everyday for answering prayers and sparing my sister!


  1. Now if that post doesn't tug at a person's heart-strings, they are surly in a coma.

    Very well done and obviously heart-felt.

  2. Beautiful story from the heart Carmen.

    1. As always, Sue, thank you for reading.

  3. Blood sisters & soul sisters make the world go round...

  4. I love you Aunt Carmen. Your post is amazing. My mom is lucky to have such a good sister like you.

  5. Thank u baby!! I love you too! I feel lucky to have your mom!

  6. Your article brings up the subject of a support person. That was my role with my wife. She passed away with this disease four years ago. I was finally able to write something that may be of help to other men. I will pass it on to you. If you would like to share it in any way, you have my permission. Thanks for being who you are and for supporting another who needed you.


  7. Lisa,
    I wanted to commend you on the handling of a delicate yet important subject that affects so many.
    This was especially your month to tell your story, listen to theirs and be a voice; as always, you did it with style, grace, just the right amount of humor and your usual amount of class and empathy.

    A month well done, but there is so much more in you, type... ;)

    A Fan

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